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Ask Patty: The Attention-Craving Friend PDF Print E-mail
Written by Patty Brisben   
Wednesday, 08 September 2010 06:56

Ask Patty: The Attention-Craving Friend
Friendships are about growing together, not stealing the spotlight, so our relationship columnist shares some tips on how you can put a stop to the competition.


"I have a long-time friend who always insists on being the center of attention. She will tell other girls (including me) that we look good with hairstyles and clothing that are obviously unflattering! She goes to great lengths to make sure that no other girls in our group look as good as she does. This has gotten to the point where I'm not even sure I want to be friends anymore. Is there a good way to speak with her about this, or is it best to just end the friendship?"

— Bethany, (Mt. Lookout, Ohio)

 

Patty: Whether it's a friend or a boyfriend, anyone who is selfishly attempting to better themselves by bringing you down is not a true friend. People who behave this way typically see others as objects and the "supporting cast" in a world that revolves solely Cincy-Shoes-In-Story-GIF.GIFaround them. If she always has to be the center of attention, this could mean she needs to take some time to really work on herself.

 

Are there other redeeming qualities that attract you to her friendship, or are you simply friends now because you knew each other way back when? Birds of a feather flock together, so you have to ask yourself what it is that causes you to gravitate toward her. It sounds like there isn't much of a deep connection here. Also, she doesn't seem to be a great friend when she's more concerned with being competitive with you than helping you be the best you can be.

 

It may be time to take control of the situation, both physically and mentally. Take the bull by the horns and consult a stylist, go to a great salon. You may shock your girlfriend when she sees you can make your own decisions.

 

In the end, you need to decide if this friendship is really worth it to you. If so, you should sit down and let her know honestly that these things are causing problems in your relationship. Time will tell if this is a friendship that will stand the test of time.

 

 

Patty Brisben -

Patty Brisben is the CEO and Founder of Pure Romance. She is Cincy Chic's relationship columnist, and you can send her an e-mail at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .


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