— Bethany, (Mt. Lookout, Ohio)

Patty: Whether it's a friend or a boyfriend, anyone who is selfishly attempting to better themselves by bringing you down is not a true friend. People who behave this way typically see others as objects and the "supporting cast" in a world that revolves solely around them. If she always has to be the center of attention, this could mean she needs to take some time to really work on herself.

Are there other redeeming qualities that attract you to her friendship, or are you simply friends now because you knew each other way back when? Birds of a feather flock together, so you have to ask yourself what it is that causes you to gravitate toward her. It sounds like there isn't much of a deep connection here. Also, she doesn't seem to be a great friend when she's more concerned with being competitive with you than helping you be the best you can be.

It may be time to take control of the situation, both physically and mentally. Take the bull by the horns and consult a stylist, go to a great salon. You may shock your girlfriend when she sees you can make your own decisions.

In the end, you need to decide if this friendship is really worth it to you. If so, you should sit down and let her know honestly that these things are causing problems in your relationship. Time will tell if this is a friendship that will stand the test of time.