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Ask Patty: Breaking up a Bromance

Ask Patty: Breaking up a Bromance
Guys' relationships can walk a fine line between "wing man" and "bromance," so our relationship expert helps the men in your life make sure they are sending the right signals.


"My buddy Josh and I have been hanging out a lot recently. We are both single and love the nightlife, going out and looking to meet some good-looking ladies. We are both good dressers and some of our other buddies say we have a 'Bromance.' Girls even come up to us at clubs and think we are gay. What can we do to not give that "gay" vibe? I feel like this vibe is keeping the women away. Help!"

 

Patty: It's certainly a double standard that only women can look good while hanging out in groups within a social setting. Unfortunately, in life there always will be people passing judgment on us. You can't please everyone, so you are better off ignoring people who are judging you or are thinking negatively about you simply because you have a healthy friendship with someone of the same sex! 0110Fence_INSTORY.gif

 

If you find that it is interfering in meeting women, however, there are some things you could consider that may help counteract this stereotype. You can start by finding other people to incorporate into your social group so that there isn't so much emphasis on you and your "Bromance." Also, while you enjoy each other's company, try taking breaks intermittently from one another and allow women to interact with you. Take a few minutes to walk around and socialize throughout the night, and although it's somewhat of another funny double standard, perhaps refrain from ordering the same mixed drinks or going to the bathroom with one another (wink).

 

Branching out and having other healthy friendships and relationships will help keep you balanced, and it opens you up to other people with whom you might have just as many great connections.

Patty Brisben -

Patty Brisben is the CEO and Founder of Pure Romance. She is Cincy Chic's relationship columnist, and you can send her an e-mail at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .


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