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Ask Patty: Stepping out in Confidence PDF Print E-mail
Written by Patty Brisben   
Thursday, 11 February 2010 08:27

Ask Patty: Stepping out in Confidence
Even some of the most beautiful, outgoing women are single, but our relationship expert help show how you can use "single" time to your advantage.


"I have been single for about two years. I hear men really like outgoing women, but every time I hit on a guy, I get rejected. I'm an athletic, brown-haired, green-eyed professional and don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't think I'm coming on too strong. Rejection is just getting the best of me, and I'm losing all of my confidence. How do I get men to stop rejecting me?"

— Kate (Roselawn, Ohio)

 

Patty:

 

It's not always easy to be objective when evaluating our personal behavior, so I would recommend asking one of your closest friends (a good male friend that you know you can trust is even better) for his honest opinion. Chances are, if your gut tells you that you are coming on too strong, you may very well be. If you do discover from a close friend that you are a bit on the aggressive side, maybe try sitting back and letting potential suitors do the work. The best way to do this is to go to a bar or event with the goal of having fun with your friends, not with the one-track mind of meeting someone.

 

As far as "good looks" go, this isn't a guarantee that you will attract the object of your affection. Everyone is different and has unique tastes and types. In fact, sometimes someone who is too good looking can sometimes be quite intimidating. With that being said, don't be so hard on yourself.

 

If you are going through a phase where you haven't met that special someone, don't be so quick to blame yourself. There are many people who stay single for a long time, from months to years, and this should be the time that you take to focus on yourself and building your confidence. When the timing is right and the person is a true match, it should all come very naturally. As long as you're being yourself and being honest with who you are and where you're going, it won't be long before you meet the right man.

Patty Brisben -

Patty Brisben is the CEO and Founder of Pure Romance. She is Cincy Chic's relationship columnist, and you can send her an e-mail at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .


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