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Ask Patty: New Priorities for the New Year

Ask Patty: New Priorities for the New Year
Patty has some advice for a local couple who seems to have put their love life on hold for the holidays. She offers some helpful tips to set sparks for the New Year.


"My sweetie and I have been so busy with the holidays, we've had little time for each other, let alone ourselves. Do you have any suggestions for New Year’s resolutions that will help us get focused and more intimate in 2010?"
— Lisa (Tri-County, Ohio)

 

 

Patty:

 

Most of us want to find a way to become a healthier and happier person. When we are comfortable with ourselves, we are better mothers, partners and friends. Our diet, our sex lives and even our careers affect the way we feel and act toward ourselves and the people we love.

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The first step to finding a healthier you is to focus on yourself. If you don’t pamper yourself already, it’s time to start. Women are often so busy taking care of everyone else, they sometimes forget to take care of themselves — and it shows! I can’t tell you how many women write into me every day and talk about how they don’t take care of themselves and how it directly affects their self-image and intimate relationships.

 

Relaxing and enjoying time away from your daily obligations and responsibilities is important. Remember to use your vacation as a time to rejuvenate. Pamper yourself, set time to catch up with your girlfriends, and remember to take time for yourself. Self-exploration is also important, and incorporating this in your down time can be beneficial since you will have fewer distractions. Below are some great ways to put some focus back on yourself.

 

Pencil in a Little "Me-Time."

 

When you set aside 10 to 15 minutes a day to pamper yourself and feel good, you will feel refreshed and re-energized. Take some time to soak in a bubble bath, paint your toe nails or read a book quietly in a hammock on a nice day. Whatever you decide, the energy you will gain from pampering yourself will give you that extra bounce in your step and in the bedroom.

 

You can soak in Pure Romance's Champagne-infused bubble bath (Romance Bubbles) or dab a little pheromone-infused Basic Instinct on your neck and wrists to feel especially sexy and confident. Pampering yourself is about loving you and making time for yourself. So often women put everyone else's needs before their own. This not only leaves you feeling burned out but also a tad bit resentful. So pencil in time for you and watch the positive effects spill into your personal life and your relationship.

 

Explore New Hobbies.

 

We often get so wrapped up in our routines that we lose ourselves in the process. Remember when you were young and everything was intriguing or fascinating, even when it was something as small as a cartoon or a newly blossomed flower? Keep that same sense of intrigue throughout life and you will be surprised by the passions you will discover. The great thing about passion is how contagious it really can be. When your partner sees your newfound passion, it won’t be long before that passion is spreading like wildfire to the bedroom!

 

Focus on Your Well-being.

 

There are so many health publications, Web sites and TV shows out there that can give you tips and ideas of ways to lead a healthier lifestyle. When you feel better about your health, you not only feel better, you look better. And that added energy and sense of contentment, again, is an amazing aphrodisiac.

 

Don't Focus on the Past.

 

The future is yours. Don't waste time dwelling on the past. This is true in relationships and with life in general. Use your past mistakes and experiences to learn and move on. When you look at it this way, you will be moving into a healthier arena of relationships and happiness.

 

My book, Pure Romance Between the Sheets, is a wonderful resource that will provide you with information that can strengthen your self-awareness. When you wake up in the morning, remember to look at yourself first and ask the question, "Have I taken care of me?" Building a healthy relationship with yourself will have a direct impact on how you live your life. Pamper yourself, trust yourself, and experience the happiness you deserve.

 

 

Patty Brisben -

Patty Brisben is the CEO and Founder of Pure Romance. She is Cincy Chic's relationship columnist, and you can send her an e-mail at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .


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